18 Year age difference in dating, Thoughts?

[mrgoodbites]

One of my sisters just started dating her friend that shes known for several years, shes i think 24 n he is 18 years older than her, Myself n family don't have a problem with it n a few friends I talked to about it don't. i know a few cuples with a 10 year age difrence to. I dont remember seeing anything in the bible about age differences sorta thing, what are you guys thoughts on it?

[joyfulnoise]

me and my wife are 7 years different and have been married 18 years. is it wrong or right ???? I don't think so???

[Saint]

Are they equaly Yoked?
When she is 32 he will be 50. Their bodies will be telling them different things.
When I hit 50 I don't want anny new babies! None! Zero! Zip! Nada!
But 32 is a perfact time to have a baby. add 18 years and the kid is out when you are 50.
What about life expirence?
At 24- She has just barely started her adult life. She will be willing to try any thing
At 42- He has screwed up enough of his life to know what not to do.
To me 18 years is too much. I could run rings arround any 24year old lady out there.
They are just not expirenced enough to keep up.
And allot of older men look twards yunger women because they are easier to manage.
There is so much emotion wraped up in new relationships, that we can FAIL to recognize/accept honest truths.
I don't intend to sound mean but to help you with the hard questions.
I have a devorce on my record because I didn't get counceling.
My daughter didn't deserve that. Now I tell friends to think outside of themselves.
Get a good education so you can afford to take care of your kids right, because they are comming.
Get good counceling so you make the right marriage choice.
Child custody is messy and annoying at best. Bitter and selfserving at worst.
Steep back. clear your heads, and get some God-fearing counceling.
If after all that they still feel lead by God to be together; then In Jesus' name go for it!

[mrgoodbites]

Child custody is messy and annoying at best. Bitter and selfserving at worst.

My family knows about Child custody being messy, my oldest sister is trying to get her son back (Its a long story n not for here) at any point both of them are taking it real slow and my family and friends are praying for them, if it works out between them I woodent mind him as part of the family, he is a grate friend of the family.

[warrior777]

Me and my wife are only a few month apart in age but she is older then I am though but I would say that is not bad here

[TBIG]

My aunt and uncle are 15 years apart and they have been married since 1978. I don't see anything wrong with it.

[demonslaughter]

As long as thats what God is telling them to do then there isnt a problem, I wish them all the best and may God bless them!

[dean]

Are they equaly Yoked?
When she is 32 he will be 50. Their bodies will be telling them different things.
When I hit 50 I don't want anny new babies! None! Zero! Zip! Nada!
But 32 is a perfact time to have a baby. add 18 years and the kid is out when you are 50.
What about life expirence?
At 24- She has just barely started her adult life. She will be willing to try any thing
At 42- He has screwed up enough of his life to know what not to do.
To me 18 years is too much. I could run rings arround any 24year old lady out there.
They are just not expirenced enough to keep up.
And allot of older men look twards yunger women because they are easier to manage.
There is so much emotion wraped up in new relationships, that we can FAIL to recognize/accept honest truths.
I don't intend to sound mean but to help you with the hard questions.
I have a devorce on my record because I didn't get counceling.
My daughter didn't deserve that. Now I tell friends to think outside of themselves.
Get a good education so you can afford to take care of your kids right, because they are comming.
Get good counceling so you make the right marriage choice.
Child custody is messy and annoying at best. Bitter and selfserving at worst.
Steep back. clear your heads, and get some God-fearing counceling.
If after all that they still feel lead by God to be together; then In Jesus' name go for it!

I agree with Saint on this one. Then again it all depends on where they are in their walk and maturity. 18 years is A LOT more than 7. My wife and I are 4 1/2 years apart and we get along fine. But when she was much younger in her mind it was a struggle.

[Kim]

My Aunt and Uncle are 20 years apart (She is older than him). They have been together for 25+ years. I think it depends on what part of life the age difference comes in. and it depends on the people. Brian is 6 years older than me, we are on the same level in life, it works for us. Your sister may need the maturity an old man brings, especially with her having a child. She is at a different place in life than a lot of other 24 year old's. It is good you and your family are praying for them. Just keep it up.

[warrior777]

My Aunt and Uncle are 20 years apart (She is older than him). They have been together for 25+ years. I think it depends on what part of life the age difference comes in. and it depends on the people. Brian is 6 years older than me, we are on the same level in life, it works for us. Your sister may need the maturity an old man brings, especially with her having a child. She is at a different place in life than a lot of other 24 year old's. It is good you and your family are praying for them. Just keep it up.

THAT IS A BIG AMEN 2 that Kim I agree with you

[mrgoodbites]

Thank you for all your good input guys. all of you have given some grate input.

[DrivenBlvr88]

I agree with Kim as well on this...

My parents are 19 years apart, dad being born in 1942 and mom in 1961. So as of recent...I think they just had an anniversary of 25 years of marriage. Dad had a bad marriage that ended in divorce due to an unfaithful wife back in his "younger years", to a woman who was nearly the same age as he. So does age similarity make the best marriage? No, I don't think so. In fact, I would be willing to guess that at least as many divorces are within couples who are near the same age, as couples that are not near the same age. The fact is, if it's a marriage in which each partner has prayed to God to bless them in, and they feel that God has given them the "go ahead", then that is the majority of what matters.

Nobody said any marriage would be easy, and as my fiance' and I have come to learn (she is a year younger than I am and still has quite a bit of growing up to do herself, as well as me I'm sure), it takes a lot of discussion between both parties, prayer, and humility to make any relationship, or in the future for us, marriage to work. I'm so thankful that we didn't end up jumping into the marriage arrangement hot and heavy like we nearly decided too, thank God we listened to our families and decided we need to learn a lot more about each other and our tolerance levels have to be expanded towards each other (I'm the more guilty of being hot-tempered, pray for me on that one).

So in summary, I don't think there is a problem with age difference, as long as it is only that, and of course, within the right time (the same 18 year old and 30 year old, 10 years prior, obviously would have issues making things work on any scale!). When two people allow God to lead them, whether it ends up being together or separately, He will direct them in the way HE wants them to go, and that's what counts. God Bless!

[mrgoodbites]

Thar relationship is doing good so far everyone, thanks for the good input.

[Redimi2]

I would say to be careful, if his life shows that he is a true christian i would say you are safe, but if his previous life says that he is not a christian, i say tell her to get away from him, it depends on her level of commitment with God too, if she is wanting to serve him i recommend her get with a real christian, if she prays and waits in God, he will send the right man, i am concerned about the huge age gap, he will be inactive before she is ready to stop, she may not like that down the road, but if they were similar age they would have aged together, My exwife was 4 years older than me but i was way more mature mentally than she was. She had a christian childhood but when she was an adult she did not live the christian life, she never missed a sunday service, but as far as living the christian life outside of church, it was not there. I had a very tough time getting her to be honest, and basically be a true christian, it seemed like too much work for her, she was content with just going to church and that's it, she filled for divorce and kicked me out of the house a few months after we got the house, to me she did me a huge favor, after i left she basically went back to the world. Bug it sucks for my son, she now has a boyfriend that is like her, just goes to church, but does not live a christian life, im trying to get custody of my son, we have final divorce hearing before the judge coming up in a month or so, pray for me so it will be Gods' will, oh and tell your sister not to have any kids with him until she has been with him for a year or two, that way if anything happens no young ones will be affected, because that REALLY SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!, im telling you from experience

[skiendog]

I would say to be careful, if his life shows that he is a true christian i would say you are safe, but if his previous life says that he is not a christian, i say tell her to get away from him,